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Come EXAMS and students become prone to the much-talked-about EXAM FEVER. Exams prove to be anxiety-provoking to most of the students.

Speak of exams coming round the corner to a child and it generally scares the living daylights out of him. Now is the time when parents need to put on their thinking caps and ponder on the ways to help your children battle this fear of examinations.

It is nothing unusual. Ask an actor, a public speaker, a bride, a soldier or even a new teacher and we get one thing in common, that they tend to get anxious and nervous just before the zero hour.

Preparations for exams are tough, exams are tougher but the waiting period is the toughest. Optimal anxiety motivates and keeps the students ahead, but over-anxiety disables them. Fear and anxiety hamper the organization of the mind which results in a mental block during the examination.

 

Don't you worry, as these tips will help you centre on the basic problem and rectify it. I am sure that you can do wonders in building up your child's confidence, once again.

Talk to your child. It is the first step to open up and make them feel light. Children need some time and support to talk over their anxieties and get it out of their chests, periodically.

Be patient. You can often be helpful without actively doing anything. You just need to have faith in your child. He is special. Patience and endurance always help.

Parental pressure worsens it. Parents need to adopt behaviors to cope with the situation rather than cause more stress. Do not over-burden your child to get a certain score or top the exams. You should be aware that studies should always be motivated and not forced.

Obtain a sense of perspective. Do realize that school takes up only 17 years of one's life, and there will be many years ahead in life for your children to achieve. Accept that not everyone excels at academics. While marks and exams are important, it is not the end of the world if they cannot score well at times.

Timetables help. They are guidelines and grids on which the work is to be done. They would avoid the wastage of unfilled time. On the other hand, flexibility is necessary. Plans or timetables aren't the absolutes to be followed. As inconsistency in following them leads to disheartening and lowering of the confidence level.

Teach your children to be relaxed, but not lethargic and go according to the capacity of your child.

Supervise and monitor their studies. Do not police. Do realize that repeated reminders about studying or constant interference should be avoided. Your child is not goingto like being constantly under a scanner.

Avoid bad parenting. Be kind to them. The extremes often lead to failure and further cause lack of interest and loss of self-esteem. Fear and criticism lead to more depression, anxiety and tension. Therefore, such an approach should be rooted out and efforts should be taken for your child's welfare.

Talk about aspects other than exams. Be aware that the rest of the life doesn't come to a standstill as the child is appearing for his exams.

Allow for breaks and insist on physical activities rather than letting them have a television or computer time off, as they play a major role in lowering the academic performance.

Adequate sleep and intake of proper nutrition is very essential as diets rich in fibers like fruits and green vegetables help reduce stress. Do not forget that "breakfast is the brain food". Seven to eight hours of sleep is necessary for appropriate physical rest and brain functioning.

Make sure that your child's study is a well-ventilated place and is away from television or other nuisance as such leisurely sources of entertainment can surely put your child off the scent.

Your children should be educated in such a way that they learn for themselves and not for others.

Fear comes only when there is some commitment. We can realize this by watching innocent kindergarten kids who might not have enough competitive spirit but they can learn and recollect well with interest and not fear and tension. Explain this to your child and this thought can offer better stability of mind with emotional support.

Many parents expect their child to do what could not be done by them. This mentality often stands as an obstacle in the development of the child's interest and abilities. This approach should be strictly avoided.

On the other hand, a few parents want their child to enter into the same profession that they belong to. This also hinders his interest and taste of subjects. This can hamper the choice of selection of the career your child is about to pursue.

Teach your child not to weasel out of the responsibility of exams due to the fear of a low score or failure. It has to be done, one way or the other.

Teach him to concentrate on every word he reads, in the class or when revising, as his lack of proper attention will possibly weigh against him on the final grade. Periodically, he will learn to be all ears with everything that he hears or reads.

Lastly, do not compare your child's performance with his friends or fellow students. This can prove to be greatly de-motivating, leading to the development of an inferiority complex.

Now that is about the size of it. Not to put too fine a point on it, I would like to conclude herein, as I am sure you wouldn't want me to yammer away about it anymore. A very important thing to be remembered is that -""Realize that you love your kids, even when they do not do well. Be aware that everyone has "off days". There will be times when your kids may react in ways which may seem to be inappropriate. Allow for these to happen without the feeling of guilt. Your child is uniquely special and has the capacity and caliber to outdo the rest in at least one particular field. Encourage and appreciate that. He will make you a proud parent. It is rightly said that, 'It is never too late to mend' (1590, Robert Greene)."

I am sure that with proper care and your love and support, your child can undoubtedly come out with flying colors. I hope the above charted out tips pay off into something worthwhile.

 

- Editorial Team, Mindfiesta

 

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